How can we ensure that wise feminine voices and ways of being are heard and honored in business, politics, culture and religion?
How can we move beyond the exclusivity and damage of patriarchy to a balance of feminine and masculine that leads to thriving partnerships?
I came of age during the women’s movement in the 1960s and 1970s. Things have changed since then. I am grateful that many doors have opened.
Yet I want more. During those years, women were invited to participate in the current system—the patriarchal system—as long as we played by the old rules.
I’m looking for something new.
I have no interest in bashing men, ignoring left-brain thinking or smashing all hierarchy. Instead, I want an alternative to the unbalanced, masculine-centered culture that has long dominated our institutions, values and behavior. Patriarchy has hurt men and boys as well as women and girls. Looking ahead for my children and grandchildren, I want to help build a world where feminine and masculine ways are both equally honored and used. To do this, we’ll need new rules, paradigms and ways of being.
Painting by Khara Scott-Bey
Learning to notice how I’ve internalized the values and perspective of the established, masculine-centered paradigm is humbling. While working for balance in the world around me, I discovered that I must also tend to my own inner change.
Some of my own inner work is serious, pondering. But some of it is downright fun. One day Hectate showed up in my imagination, a combination of the Goddess Hecate and my wise inner guide with an attitude the size of Texas. Who says transformation has to be hard?
I have just scratched the surface of the topic of gender. I was born in a female body, have always felt like a woman and am sexually attracted to men. It would be easy for me to assume that those feelings are true for or exclusive to all women. They aren't. My experience is narrow. I have much to learn.
I want to live life as a dance where the feminine and the masculine and everything that’s part of being human—falling down and getting up again, ambiguities and certainties, thinking and intuition, work and play—are part of the process.
I continue to dive deeper into gender on my Big Topics Blog:
Businesses or organizations that support my gender journey:
Gender Reading Corner:
Tami Lynn Kent. Wild Feminine: Finding Power, Spirit & Joy in the Root of the Female Body (New York: Atria Books/Beyond Words, 2011)
I have read this book cover to cover twice. It gives me the bigger context for my life and also grounds me firmly in my own feminine body.
---. Mothering From Your Center: Tapping Your Body's Natural Energy for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting (New York: Atria Books/Beyond Words, 2013)
Tami's newest book explores mothering of both children and our own creativity. Her wisdom and spirit are on every page.
Sharon Franquemont. You Already Know What to Do: 10 Invitations to the Intuitive Life (New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher/Putnam, 1999)
I love Franquemont’s insights and methods of nurturing the intuitive aspect of my life which, for me, is a critical part of my feminine wisdom.
Nancy grounded herself in the historical events of her life and the world, then interpreted those events through her experiences as a woman. This is the true embodiment of Women’s history. Big Topics at Midnight is a potent story to guide other women to heal and reconcile their past in order to embrace the beauty of their female bodies, the ancestors, and the wisdom of the Divine Feminine.
-Reda Rackley, Ancestor Diviner, Expressive Arts Therapist, caller of ritual circles, and MA in Mythology and Depth Psychology